Attract Women – Why Being Too Nice Kills Attraction

Posted: January 10, 2011 in attract a girl, attract a woman, attract girls, attract women, attracting women
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Click here http://www.TooShyToDate.com to get my “Nerve Stop” Technique and to get onto my insider AUTHENTIC GAME newsletter. Many people think attracting women works by showing women you’re attracted to them by doing nice things for them and women will just feel attraction back.

Other people say that to attract women you need to be a jerk or bad boy because that is the real way to attract women.

But nobody seems to talk about the powerful social mechanism that’s causing a lot of men who try the “nice guy” way to attract a girl by being a super nice guy to end up lonely and wondering why (despite all their obvious efforts to show why they are the best man for the girl they like) the girl just doesn’t seem to “feel any attraction”.

And a lot of guys who go with the “bad boy” approach to attract women end up alienating the women they want to attract the most.

In this video Stephan Erdman from TooShyToDate.com is explaining the real underlying reason why being overly nice to a girl you’re attracted to in will often destroy attraction that might well have developed if you hadn’t made any extra effort or bought her those flowers or took her out to fancy places or called her 5 times a day or all the other things men often do to show a girl they “like” her…

Being a “jerk” (whatever that’s meant to be) is certainly not the answer..but in the video Stephan gives several precise tips to avoid ever making the crucial mistake of putting reciprocation pressure on a woman so that she can notice attraction to you develop naturally. Please subscribe if you like this video and join my insider newsletter.

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Little Known Secrets Of How To Talk To Women Part 2

Posted: September 29, 2011 in conversation skills for men, how to talk to a girl, how to talk to girls, talking to women
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Throwing a girl off balance vs Complying 

Do you make these mistakes when you talk to women you like?

1. Always making sure you answer her questions in full.
2. Always let her decide what you guys talk about
3. Making sure you stay on "safe" topics that can't offend her.

If you do even 1 of these things with women you like you're
reducing your chances of her ever feeling attracted to you.

See…in order for her to begin to feel attracted for you…
she's got to first notice you're there. 

And when i say notice you're there I mean FEEL YOUR PRESENCE. 

In order to feel your presence you need to DO something to her.

You could make her THINK, or WONDER, or BE CURIOUS, or feel ANGRY,
or SURPRISED, or GROSSED OUT…whatever!

As long as you're having an impact on her. That's why some people
say it's better to get a bad reaction than NO reaction. 

Truth is..if she can stay neutral and deal with you without having
any kind of real feelings…nothing is ever going to happen between
you two.

So remember: Make her feel something! Provoke a reaction!
Take risks! Stop censuring yourself! Break her pattern!
Talk about risky topics in an open way!  And never, ever hold back!

Of course, many elements of my Pimp Your Lingo Program are designed to help
help you do this. But you don't need it to put this strategy into
action already! 

When guys complain about why women can be attracted to guys who don't
always treat them perfectly…they're missing the point. 

Most women would rather feel something, than feel nothing.

The magic happens when she's noticing that she's having feelings
with you that she doesn't normally have.

Get it? Let me know what you think below...
Stephan

Little Known Secrets Of How To Talk To Women Part 1

Posted: September 28, 2011 in conversation skills for men, how to talk to a girl, how to talk to girls, pimp your lingo, talking to women
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Today I want to tell you about something simple that you can use next time
you talk to a girl you like. It will help you become more attractive when
you communicate with women. I explain this fully in my
Pimp Your Lingo Conversation Skills Program … but I am going to give you 
the outline today.

Most men just try to get through a conversation with a woman they like
trying not to look stupid. because they don't know what they want from
a conversation they end up being passive and just fall back to not wanting
to piss her off.

All they're trying to do is maintain the status quo. Playing it safe.
That is not exciting. It's passive. conventional. unattractive.

I call that a "PASSIVE COMMUNICATION MINDSET".

INSTEAD DO THIS: have an active goal for the interaction that excites you.
Simple stuff. Nothing complicated. But something that gets your juices flowing. 

For example:
Having the most fun you ever had. Entertaining yourself. Make the boredom go away.
Make her laugh 3 times. Anything that makes YOU feel excited about achieving it.
And have fun in the process.

Get it? That makes you an exciting guy to talk to.

I call that an "ACTIVE COMMUNICATION MINDSET".

It also makes you charismatic. It makes you want to have an impact on someone
because you want them to do something.

Tomorrow I'll give you the second of my 3 key tips for conversations with women.
In the meantime...let me know what you think by leaving a comment below. 

See you then,
Stephan
PS: By the way...if you're interested in learning a lot more about how to talk to
women then you should consider purchasing the
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PPS: Here's a free youtube video on the topic of how to talk to women without
drying up...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKk0jXLz-Qg

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